Currently, the modern trend of young people prefer
partnership before the marriage. It is much easier for them to live with a
partner, respectively girlfriend in a relationship without any commitments,
such as family, children, property.
It is more easily to live in a relationship, which is
not binding as marriage. It is a relationship based on mutual trust, love, but
on the other hand a relationship, which was at least a few decades ago
condemnable in our society. Live with a woman / man into a relationship, that
is not enclosed in front of God, or is not seal official power, had not in the
past of such a privileged position how it is now. Today in our society is
increasingly favored this relationship. Young people have, in my opinion, other
values, as had our parents, grandparents. Today their primary objective is to
take care of their career, acquire property, build a house, buy apartment and on
the last place in the value system is to have a child with girlfriend, create
relationship and live in a harmonious family.
I am not saying that in our society there are no young
people, who do not have interest in marriage. There are also those, who prefer
material safety future family, and existence of the family itself.
With the modernization of the family, respectively the
partnership is also increasing its intimacy. Today, the family is considered a
private institution, which is virtually closed for the public eyes and ears. The
family very often is the place where the
tensions increase, the stress is enlarged and the problems are solved. The
problems are addressed not only in a constructive way, but very often end with
violence. The violence has become a typical reaction of family life.
When we talk about violence in the family, we mean
primarily the violence being committed by the men against women in intimate
partnership. This "problem" occurs in all types of families, regardless
of their substantial safety, affecting all social measures of our society. It
is not a single act, but a long term process with its phases.
In SlovakRepublic, the issue of
violence against women became a public issue after the collapse of communism,
in early 1990-s. The first representative research on this topic was carried
out in 1997. The United
States addressed this issue already in the
1970-s. It was not addressed by experts as might be expected, but the women
themselves - the victims started to speak.
The topic of violence is now becoming very popular. People
reading articles and stories of interesting issues are rather full of
aggression and violence. This topic is not only popular but also very
sensitive. It is difficult to consider this issue without personal involvement,
without the surrender of all possible and available forces to prevent this
phenomenon.
Even my mission became to help victims of violence, primarily
woman, that suffer violence from their partner, respectively man. Even for me –
a young manthis topic is very
interesting and I am dedicated to it. A
lot of young women, who enter into relationship with partners live life full of
helplessness, hopelessness.
Violence is the outcome of frustrated young people,
who lost their jobs, have no sufficient income to ensure the basic needs of
families. Ironically succumb to addiction, the family is either broken up, or
remain, but at the expense of harmonious coexistence.
I carried out a
research on violence against women in. If we talk about violence in intimate
relation, is generally about women in middle ages. During my research, I met a
woman, who was only 16 years old when her partner began to beat her up. Many of
the women in the research were tortured for a long time. The research had 40 - 50
years old women, who lived in a violent relationship, which lasted for more
than twenty years.
All these women were young. Every woman desires to
live without violence in the family, in a family full of harmony, love and
understanding. This is the dream of every young human ... The question is:
"Is it easy to be a young person?”
The answer is in the
changed values for young people. They have to take care of themselves at first,
to ensure the physical health, than maybe find a partner/girlfriend, and if
they seriously think can marry. The problems of the young people do not end. If
a man accidentally loses his job defeating the frustration and the only
solution of the problems are addictions, the violence is last step towards
finishing the beautiful story between two young people – their love in real life